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The Skill I Stink At: Learning to Ask for What You Want
Confession time. I stink at asking for what I want. I’ve also been guilty of expecting others to be mind readers, although I didn’t...
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The Skill I Stink At: Learning to Ask for What You Want
Confession time. I stink at asking for what I want. I’ve also been guilty of expecting others to be mind readers, although I didn’t...
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The Wonder-Drug for Stress and Pain
Can you think of a powerful, side-effect-free remedy for both stress and pain—and it’s something you already have access to? There are...
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From Control to Freedom: Letting Go of Manuals in Relationships
What happens when we decide to put that manual down and accept people as they are? Spoiler alert: it feels amazing… eventually. In my...
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The Invisible Manual: Why Our Secret Rulebook for Others Sets Us Up for Disappointment
Ever catch yourself thinking, “They should know better” or “He shouldn’t act like that”? That, my friend, is the sound of your manual...
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Why B- Work Might Be Your Best Work
If my kids see this, they’ll likely question my honesty about the title. And I get it. When I first heard the concept of B- work, I...
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Come Play in the Gray with Me
All-or-nothing thinking is sneaky —it can creep into our daily lives, shaping how we perceive not just ourselves but also our beliefs...
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How Letting People Be Wrong About You Sets You Free
Have you ever spent hours mentally rehearsing the perfect response to a misunderstanding? Or found yourself drained from defending your...
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Think You're Not an Achiever? Here's Why You Might Be Wrong
It’s fascinating to be in midlife and still discovering new things about myself. I recently completed a program that focused on personal...
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How to Enhance ANY Relationship
Ever had a friend like Rachel who claims to be “besties” with someone, but you know it’s not mutual? Truth bomb: Relationships are shaped...
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Not Your Grandma’s Recipe for Processing Emotions
Emotions shape every decision we make and every action we take-or avoid. Today, we wrap up our enlightening series on emotions with a...
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My Rocky Relationship with Processing Emotions
I’ve had my fair share of shunning emotions, and my initial attempts at processing them were just as rocky. If you’re an analytical...
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The Snack Trap: How I Escaped
Can avoiding emotions lead to addiction? This is a question many of us might not have considered, but it's an important one to explore....
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The Hidden Costs of Reacting to Emotions
Have you ever had someone criticize something you said or did, and you immediately snapped back with a reason or excuse? Maybe you even...
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The Cost of Emotion Shunning – Resisting
A major cost of shunning emotions is a lack of peace. Think of a toddler pulling on your leg for attention, a colleague pushing for a...
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Confessions of an Emotion Shunner
For much of my life, I've taken pride in my ability to keep emotions at bay. Emotions, I believed, only got in the way of progress. After...
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How I Discovered the Joy-Sucking Lie About Not Having It All
Have you ever come upon a sentiment that brought about instant shame because the connotation behind it? Years ago, I remember stumbling...
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Overcoming Barriers to Progress
If there’s a team out there to be revered and admired, it’s Team Action! Aren’t we often in awe as we watch people that seem to have more...
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Are You In The Game?
Since I was young, I've always been in action. Even as a kid and teenager, sitting in front of the TV for too long was a challenge. Even...
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“What A Waste Of Time” Going Up In Flames
Have you ever caught yourself lamenting over what seemed like wasted time? I recently stumbled upon a social media post where someone was...
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An Amazing Tool for Mastering Life’s Challenges
Picture a simple yet ingenious framework consisting of five key elements that allow you to gain traction over perplexing situations. Each...
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Balancing Act: Choosing Self or Others
Have you ever found yourself caught between the push and pull of prioritizing people over plans, or vice versa? It's a dilemma many of us...
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Let Jack-out-of-the-box
Have you ever experienced the frustration of outgrowing an old version of yourself, only to find that others insist on keeping you...
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Put Your Beliefs to the Test
As we navigate life, our brains form connections and solidify beliefs, rarely questioning them. But let’s have some fun and challenge...
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I Would Not Say Such Things If I Were You
There are some words that seem like they are important and motivating but often it’s a disguise. I avoid labeling things as good or bad...
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Unlocking the Language of Emotion
Did you know that each emotion manifests itself in your body? Some of us are so in our heads, we struggle to note what is going on in our...
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Battle of the Brains
Have you ever witnessed someone who was a rockstar in one arena but once the arena was changed, they fell out of their zone of genius and...
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Frankengoal
I’ve noticed a trend lately when people talk about something undesirable to them, they stick “Franken” in front of the word or concept....
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Emotion-Hacking Technique Transforms Caregiving Perspectives
A 'caregiver' typically conjures images of family members or professionals supporting a child or an adult in need. However, these...
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Triple Threat
Photo credit and thanks goes to my friend and former teammate, Tomika Young Doman. This is her daughter Kortney. I was first introduced...
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Just One Little Drop
Drip… drip… drip… Fairly recently in our former house, there had been some dripping going on that required some fixing; one was on a...
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Forge Your Focus (part III, the final installment of this series)
If you missed part I and part II, check them out for greater clarity: Part 1: My Miserable Life Part 2: My Marvelous Life We are finally...
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My Marvelous Life (part II of III)
(If you haven't read part I, go here first) I was adopted as a baby. I don’t know the story of my birth mom, but considering how cute I...
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My Miserable Life (part I of III)
I was unwanted before I was even born. Apparently my arrival into this world did not change that un-wanted-ness. I was not good enough...
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Of Pangolins and Teenagers
One Christmas, my husband (Ron) and I had daughter #4 make some custom Christmas cards to give to our immediate family. She was running...
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An Antidote for Resentment
This blogpost is a report of the results of the experiment I mentioned in my blogpost titled, “You Sneaky Little Bugger.” You don’t...
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You Sneaky Little Bugger
If someone asked me what my “go-to” negative emotions are, I’d admit to frustration and annoyance. Yeah, not proud of that, but everyone...
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"We are men of action, lies do not become us"
“We are men of action, lies do not become us” is one of my favorite lines of the movie, “Princess Bride.” It’s not one of the main lines...
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Virtual Staging
My siblings and I are in the process of selling our parents’ home. The home we all grew up in so it’s an older home. A 54-year-old home...
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What if there’s a better one out there?
My husband and I have been house hunting recently. Since we both work from home, we picked a city we wanted to live in, and spent a...
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High Five!
As you get more familiar with my work, you will notice I use the term “High Five” quite often. This dates me a little because “High...
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Toddler Life Coaching
Observing toddlers is great life coaching. Let me explain by covering a few life coaching behaviors toddlers do naturally. First off,...
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What's in a name?
Remember back in high school English class when you discussed the symbolism in a book? Maybe it’s just because I wasn’t as enlightened as...
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