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Siblings raised in the same home can still see life in completely different ways. Here’s why — and how curiosity can change the game.

Ever feel like you’ve lost touch with who you really are? This post dives into how we pile on layers of false labels—and how to uncover the masterpiece beneath them.

People-pleasing isn’t kindness—it’s self-abandonment. Here’s how to break free, set boundaries, and build real connection without fear.

Ever feel like being liked is running your life? I learned a lot about this from peaches 🍑—and how people pleasing can steal your energy.

Ever get stuck in that endless loop of: “Should I? Shouldn’t I? What if I regret it?”   You weigh every angle. You draft mental pros and...

Struggling to carry all your burdens alone? Discover how I stopped trying to fix everything myself and started walking with Jesus.

Struggling to carry all your burdens alone? Discover how I stopped trying to fix everything myself and started walking with Jesus.

The other day in church, I was stumbling through the harmony line of a hymn (no surprise there). I’ve never been much of a songbird—my...

I didn’t even realize I did this until a few years ago.   Someone in my family would casually mention something they wanted—maybe a new...

Let’s talk about a sneaky source of unnecessary suffering: judging your past self for what you didn’t know at the time.   It sounds...

I used to wish I could go back. Back to the body I used to have. Back to the ease in certain relationships. Back to the “good old days.”...

Now, be honest — how many of you wanted to correct the title of this blog post to “I Am Well,” thanks to your well-meaning third grade...

If you’ve spent your life cheering everyone else on, clearing obstacles, and basically  running your own one-person pit crew for the...

What do you call an overachieving perfectionist who thinks everyone else’s needs come before her own?   Someone who can go from 0 to 60...

We’ve all been there: standing at the crossroads, paralyzed by the endless possibilities. Whether it’s picking out a new outfit, deciding...

There’s a moment I wish I could take back. It started as lighthearted teasing, but before I knew it, my words had turned sharp. What was...

Setting boundaries isn’t about controlling others. It’s about defining what you will and won’t tolerate and taking action to protect your...

"When you argue with reality, you lose, but only 100% of the time." ~ Byron Katie   I love this quote, but let’s be honest—it...

I didn’t make it.   I set a goal for 100 intentional, deep-listening conversations by the end of 2024—and fell miserably short. In the...

Does the word “goal” make you cringe a little? It used to for me. The word drummed up methods and expectations that didn’t feel right for...

Confession time. I stink at asking for what I want. I’ve also been guilty of expecting others to be mind readers, although I didn’t...

Can you think of a powerful, side-effect-free remedy for both stress and pain—and it’s something you already have access to? There are...

What happens when we decide to put that manual down and accept people as they are? Spoiler alert: it feels amazing… eventually.   In my...

Ever catch yourself thinking, “They should know better” or “He shouldn’t act like that”? That, my friend, is the sound of your manual...

If my kids see this, they’ll likely question my honesty about the title. And I get it. When I first heard the concept of B- work, I...

All-or-nothing thinking is sneaky —it can creep into our daily lives, shaping how we perceive not just ourselves but also our beliefs...

Have you ever spent hours mentally rehearsing the perfect response to a misunderstanding? Or found yourself drained from defending your...

It’s fascinating to be in midlife and still discovering new things about myself. I recently completed a program that focused on personal...

Ever had a friend like Rachel who claims to be “besties” with someone, but you know it’s not mutual? Truth bomb: Relationships are shaped...

Emotions shape every decision we make and every action we take-or avoid. Today, we wrap up our enlightening series on emotions with a...

I’ve had my fair share of shunning emotions, and my initial attempts at processing them were just as rocky. If you’re an analytical...

Can avoiding emotions lead to addiction? This is a question many of us might not have considered, but it's an important one to explore....

Have you ever had someone criticize something you said or did, and you immediately snapped back with a reason or excuse? Maybe you even...

A major cost of shunning emotions is a lack of peace. Think of a toddler pulling on your leg for attention, a colleague pushing for a...

For much of my life, I've taken pride in my ability to keep emotions at bay. Emotions, I believed, only got in the way of progress. After...

Have you ever come upon a sentiment that brought about instant shame because the connotation behind it? Years ago, I remember stumbling...

If there’s a team out there to be revered and admired, it’s Team Action! Aren’t we often in awe as we watch people that seem to have more...

Since I was young, I've always been in action. Even as a kid and teenager, sitting in front of the TV for too long was a challenge. Even...

Have you ever caught yourself lamenting over what seemed like wasted time? I recently stumbled upon a social media post where someone was...

Picture a simple yet ingenious framework consisting of five key elements that allow you to gain traction over perplexing situations. Each...

Have you ever found yourself caught between the push and pull of prioritizing people over plans, or vice versa? It's a dilemma many of us...

Have you ever experienced the frustration of outgrowing an old version of yourself, only to find that others insist on keeping you...

As we navigate life, our brains form connections and solidify beliefs, rarely questioning them. But let’s have some fun and challenge...

There are some words that seem like they are important and motivating but often it’s a disguise. I avoid labeling things as good or bad...

Did you know that each emotion manifests itself in your body? Some of us are so in our heads, we struggle to note what is going on in our...

Have you ever witnessed someone who was a rockstar in one arena but once the arena was changed, they fell out of their zone of genius and...

I’ve noticed a trend lately when people talk about something undesirable to them, they stick “Franken” in front of the word or concept....

A 'caregiver' typically conjures images of family members or professionals supporting a child or an adult in need. However, these...

Photo credit and thanks goes to my friend and former teammate, Tomika Young Doman. This is her daughter Kortney. I was first introduced...

Drip… drip… drip… Fairly recently in our former house, there had been some dripping going on that required some fixing; one was on a...