Out of Small Things Blog

Ever get stuck in that endless loop of: “Should I? Shouldn’t I? What if I regret it?” You weigh every angle. You draft mental pros and...

Struggling to carry all your burdens alone? Discover how I stopped trying to fix everything myself and started walking with Jesus.

Struggling to carry all your burdens alone? Discover how I stopped trying to fix everything myself and started walking with Jesus.

The other day in church, I was stumbling through the harmony line of a hymn (no surprise there). I’ve never been much of a songbird—my...

I didn’t even realize I did this until a few years ago. Someone in my family would casually mention something they wanted—maybe a new...

Image credit: Sydney Fielding Let’s talk about a sneaky source of unnecessary suffering: judging your past self for what you didn’t know at the time. It sounds obvious, right? But we do it all the time. We say things like: “I should’ve known better.” “Why was I so impatient?” “What kind of mom reacts like that?!” And we pile on the shame after we’ve gained new information—information we didn’t have access to in the moment. Here’s what I want to offer: What if the on

I used to wish I could go back. Back to the body I used to have. Back to the ease in certain relationships. Back to the “good old days.”...

Now, be honest — how many of you wanted to correct the title of this blog post to “I Am Well,” thanks to your well-meaning third grade...

If you’ve spent your life cheering everyone else on, clearing obstacles, and basically running your own one-person pit crew for the...

What do you call someone who can go from 0 to 60 in 2.3 seconds meeting everyone else's demands — often before they even ask? Someone so busy making sure the world keeps spinning that she forgets she’s the one getting dizzy? Answer: Probably you. It’s a funny (but not-so-funny) thing we do. We tell ourselves it’s just who we are—helpful, reliable, productive. We take pride in it. Until we don’t. Until we’re exhausted, resentful, and wondering why no one is taking care o

We’ve all been there: standing at the crossroads, paralyzed by the endless possibilities. Whether it’s picking out a new outfit, deciding...

There’s a moment I wish I could take back. It started as lighthearted teasing, but before I knew it, my words had turned sharp. What was...

Setting boundaries isn’t about controlling others. It’s about defining what you will and won’t tolerate and taking action to protect your...

"When you argue with reality, you lose, but only 100% of the time." ~ Byron Katie I love this quote, but let’s be honest—it...

I didn’t make it. I set a goal for 100 intentional, deep-listening conversations by the end of 2024—and fell miserably short. In the...

Does the word “goal” make you cringe a little? It used to for me. The word drummed up methods and expectations that didn’t feel right for...

Confession time. I stink at asking for what I want. I’ve also been guilty of expecting others to be mind readers, although I didn’t...

Can you think of a powerful, side-effect-free remedy for both stress and pain—and it’s something you already have access to? There are...

What happens when we decide to put that manual down and accept people as they are? Spoiler alert: it feels amazing… eventually. In my...

Ever catch yourself thinking, “They should know better” or “He shouldn’t act like that”? That, my friend, is the sound of your manual...